Find fault with; express criticism of; point out real or perceived flaws.
While every criticism does seem unfair at first, as we start looking past the frustration and anger of the speaker and start paying attention to the words spoken, we do eventually realize that the smoke is definitely rising due to a possible fire. It is not easy to handle criticism positively; after all, criticism mostly takes place in reference to something that we know we’ve been striving hard for … and when the final outcome results in unfavorable comments, it is natural for your blood to boil. When in that state, your initial reaction would make you want to strike back. You would want to ask that person to zip it! In situations that involve shouting, or throwing things — for instance, your final report — would want you to talk in the same lines, probably by expressing a stronger reaction in return. So, if you end up forming a fist which is waiting to deliver a punch on the person’s face, just know that it’s natural. However, is this the ideal way to handle unfair criticism?
Also, please note that these points are based on the understanding that the criticism is unfair and illogical, probably caused by reasons including the nature of the person, a deliberate effort to put down your self-esteem, or maybe because the person himself is having a bad day and you just became the source to vent it all out.
Once during one of Gautama Buddha’s lectures, a man interrupted him and started abusing him immensely. Buddha, instead of getting all angry and agitated, waited until he had finished and then asked him, “If a man offered a gift to another but the gift was declined, to whom would the gift belong?” The man answered, “To the one who offered it.” In response to his answer Buddha replied, “I decline to accept your abuse and request you to keep it for yourself.”